A person who does not trust or value their own feelings is no longer truly alive: they have a delusional, socially constructed identity that stands in for their real self and that steadfastly refuses (out of fear) to communicate with the real world. Such a person becomes obsessed with and addicted to controlling things that trigger their emotions: most often, these ‘things’ are other people’s emotions and behaviours. To break the cycle of emotional suppression, and the insane destructive behaviours that are caused by this, we have to find the courage to care about and listen to our own feelings.
"Whether it was reading and playing with children daily, eating meals together, or bathing and dressing children 5 and under, black fathers living outside the home were more involved than white and Latino fathers."
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"The people who don’t think you deserve to be as hurt as you are or think you should just get over it sure as hell aren’t in your room at night holding you. They’re not sending you any encouraging, helpful words. Basically they’re stranger b*tches who want to police your feelings because authenticity makes them uncomfortable."